Copied from a narrative given to the Allen County Public Library, Fort Wayne, Indiana by Goodspeed Bookstore, Feb. 5, 1979. Typed and submitted to Hayden Family Homepage 21 Jun 1996 by Chris Yoder, 203 Lakeshire Rd, Battle Creek, MI 49015.. email email@example.com
The history of the Hayden family- at least so far as it relates to the Essex,Connecticut branch- to which you and I belong, is wrapped up in romance and tradition- poetry and supposition.
It starts in with the fairy story of the "three brothers" so prominent in the history of the early settlers of this country.
John, James, and William, three little brothers,- at least so supposed and recorded- came to this country in the good ship "Mary and John" with Markhams Church in 1630.
Why she was called the "good ship" I do not know, unless it was that she was fortunate enough to survive the perils of the deep which was no mean stunt in those days.
Now if she had been termed the "Speed-well" or even the "Good-speed" there would have been some reason for it.
And it is also worthy of note that when they did come they brought their church with them- they took no chances- others had preceded them- and
the storm they sang,
And the stars heard and the sea:
And the sounding aisles of the dim
To the anthem of the free."
ocean eagle soared
From his nest by the white waves seer,
And the rocking pines of the forest
This was their welcome here."
Evidently the reception did not appeal to the Hayden brothers.
John, James and William are supposed to have been
brothers- but so far as we have any reliable
they might have
been second cousins or even no relation at all and
they came on the "Mary and John" is merely a supposition also, based upon the fact that they were at early date found associated with those that we know did come on that ship- perhaps they were steerage passengers and did not get listed - This, however, we do know:- they were all recorded as "freeman" in Dorchester, Mass. in 1634 and, from the fact that they considered Dorchester neither conducive to their health nor to their
happiness:- for John is recorded as a "freeman" in Braintree, Mass. in 1640: James likewise in Charlestown, Mass. in 1637:- and William turns up in the land of "Nutmegs" as a "freeman" at Windsor, Connecticut in 1640.
suppose that some of the Windsor Haydens,
sailing down the Connecticut river and seeing the
of Essex and
the advantages of a location there might have settled
in that place and
have become the Ancestors of the Essex branch of the family, so called.
I am, however, inclined to think otherwise for the following reasons:-
I received a letter from Jabez Haskell Hayden of
Windsor, Conn. at that time 87 years of age, in which
he states, that he
has been unable to find any connection of the Windsor
Haydens with those
of Essex, although he had spent 60 years in tracing out the descendants of the Windsor branch. he published in 1888 a genealogy of the family, but it was almost entirely confined to the descendants of William.
The descendants of James of Charlestown were quite numerous but they seemed to have flocked by themselves.
-Coat of Arms-
doubt familiar with the "Cut-away", the "Prince
Albert" and the "Tuxedo" and may not be posted as to
a "Coat of Arms".
The Hayden family had one - in fact lots of the - as the Heraldic records of old England show. The one that appealed to me the most, was the one granted to john Heydon by Richard I, the Lion Hearted, so called. I am
unable to describe it in heraldic language, but in plain English is was, "a spotted dog sitting on top of a side board fence gazing at a cat" underneath is the Motto,
-"Virtue alone makes one noble"-
referred to the Heydon family - or was an encomium
on the dog - or derogatory to the cat, I do not know.
It is a matter of
regret that no direct connection of the Haydens of
with those of
old England has ever been found, although a great amount of both money and time has been spent in the endeavor.
John Hayden first appears in Lyme, Connecticut.
Land records "Vol. 2, p.270 in 1701" as purchaser of land from Henry Roland. (In those early days, Essex, Lyme and Saybrook were practically identical when speaking of location.
Now this John is the first Hayden that you and I can put our hand on and say kindly, affectionately and without fear of contradiction:-
"John, you belong to us! You are one of us - now where did you come from?"
Nothing whatever is recorded regarding his
purchase of land in Lyme (sic*), but from the
of names in this
family with those of the Hayden family in Braintree,
it would seem to be
good ground from the supposition- if not for the assumption- that John of Lyme 1701 was a descendant of John of Braintree 1640.
On May 10, 1703, John Hayden and Mary Hayden, his wife conveys the land bought of Henry Roland to Martha Blaque (Lyme Land Records, Vol.2, page 331).
of John Hayden and Mary, his wife, are recorded
(Lyme Records, Vol. 2, page 201) and were:
Ebenezer b. October 8, 1698
Jedediah b. December 14, 1700
Nehemiah b. January 16, 1703
Administration of the estate of John Hayden deceased, late of Saybrooke was granted January 7, 1723 to Ebenezer Hayden and Samuel Doty both of Saybrook (Guilford Probate Records Vol. 1, page 163) - granted at the request of Mary Hayden in a letter dated December, 1723 stating that she is under great indisposition of body by reason of lameness.His wife was supposed to be a Mary Griffin - why I don't know.
It is a
in the family that John Hayden was a bricklayer
and was drowned while going from Saybrook to Essex
a scow loaded
with bricks- that John himself was loaded is a mere
- there is information however that might lead to such an inference - Among the claims recorded as paid by the Administrators was "To cash paid Mr. Blaque for sundry victuals and drinks that the men had that went to
search for father".
s. 4 d.
Drinks 16 s -
Totals 17 s. 4 d.
from which it might be inferred that they went prepared to furnish John with what he would most desire in case they found him alive - but why so much money was squandered on victuals the record gives no explanation.
At any rate there seems to be no doubt but that John came to an untimely end: and that
was heard- not a funeral note
As his corse to the rampart was hurried;
Not a soldier discharged a farewell shot,
O'er the grave where our Ancestor was buried."
talk of the spirit that's gone,
And o'er his cold ashes upbraid him-
But little he'll reek, if we let him sleep on,
In the grave where accident laid him."
In Guilford Probate records this letter is on file addressed to
living at Seabrooke in Kanatycot Collony in New
Mallcrekow September 2 the 1709.
My honnible father and mother I giving my duty to you both, my love to my brother and sisters,
my respcts to all my onkels, cosens, and ants, my loving onkle Ebenezer Ingraham and ant
Chalker. these lines are to let you know I am in prison."
This goes to show that while our relative's moral character and spelling was at low ebb, his affection for his kinspeople was up to the general.
son of John- b. January 16,1703 is supposed to have married Temperance Pratt. He died July 2nd, 1774. Administration of his estate went to Uriah Hayden and Temperance Hayden.
Guilford Pro. Records V. 12, p. 343, Aug. 2, 1774
His children were:-
b. Jan. 10th, 1732
Ann married a Pratt
Temperance " Job Winslow
And here it is where you and I must part- genealogically speaking - you looking back on Eliakim as your noble ancestor and I as Uriah as my g.g. grandfather.
As it may perhaps be of interest to you to know how I came in to the Hayden Family, I will give you a short cut to my ancestor.
married Ann Starkey December 2, 1754
Nehemiah, son of Uriah
b. December 4, 1755 died May 29, 1791
at the island of Barbados. Why he should have gone off there to die, when they have such a nice quiet burial ground in Essex to lie in, I am unable to say. He married Sarah Sill - dear Sarah - I wish I knew who she was. I
have never been able to trace her.
He had quite a number of children - in fact- a whole kit of them.
Horace, son of Nehemiah
b. in 1786, married in 1818
Nancy Green of east Haddam, Conn.
He also had a flock of children - a dozen more or less.
Nancy Green Hayden
married at east Haddam,Conn.
George Edward Goodspeed. son of Joseph Goodspeed, a descendant of Roger Goodspeed of Barnstable 1640 and on January 14, 1845, your humble servant appeared on the scene and was duly named after his two grandfathers.-
signed "Joseph Horace Goodspeed"
Boston, May 18th, 1914
And now a few words in closing regarding:-
The first mention we have of Eliakim is in
II Chronicles Chap.36 verses 4-5.
"And the King of Egypt made Eliakim, his brother, king over Judea and Jerusalem, and so turned his name to Jehoikim- he reigned eleven years in Jerusalem and he did that which was evil in the sight of the Lord."
From the above it will be seem that while he was no great shakes in the sight of the Lord - yet he had the ability to hold his job eleven years
And again, I call your attention to the similarity of names with those of the Braintree Haydens-
II Kings, Chap.23, verse 34
"His father's name was Josiah and his mother's name was Zebudah."
So I feel that we can look back with fond feelings for our relatives in the early days- and see, as it were, as the shades of evening fell upon the plains of Zebulon- Josie and Zeb calling Eli- and little Knee High Miah to their side and teaching to them,
"Now I lay me down to sleep."
And so endest the first Lesson.
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*Sic above- in family descendants manuscript written by Joseph Hill Hayden prior to 1844 which refers to the forebear John Hayden as "John Hayden from Boston"- (21 Jun 1996- Chris Yoder, 203 Lakeshire Rd, Battle Creek, MI 49015.. email firstname.lastname@example.org)
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correspondence with Hayden manuscript-letter to Goodspeed from Mr.
Henry W. Dwight
67 Franklin Street
My Dear Joseph, of Many Colors!
Mostly white, and True Blue- No Yellow!
If I had your gift for putting things in a sweet and pleasant way, I would not sell my services for ten times what I am getting, and I would write many articles pertaining to The Dwight Collection, and I would have fun reading them before appreciative audiences.
Your little brochure on the Hayden family, in which you acknowledged relationship to your obedient servant, is a charming effort, and I am delighted to have it.
telephone me Sunday morning, say about nine
o'clock, and ask me if I am going to be at home, and
come out and see
some of my old papers, and look at the Hayden lines,
which include famous
old Revolutionary boatbuilders, etc.
Very truely yours,
signed- R Henry W Dwight
Joseph H. Goodspeed Esquire
84 State Street
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letter to Goodspeed from Jennette Hayden Sears:
My dear Mr. Goodspeed,
The extremely interesting (if somewhat frivolous) history of the branch of the Hayden family with which you and I are intimately connected reached me safely last Friday and has given me very keen enjoyment.
Your kindness in looking up our relationship and having its record put in such convenient and attractive form is thoroughly appreciated by me and it would have been more promptly acknowledged but for the birthday (and celebration later) of a small but important person in our family.
to records establishing important facts regarding
family matters seems almost to have been a custom of
the Hayden family:
for as far as I know,, no record was kept of the date
when my paternal
great grandfather Eliakim Hayden left Connecticut and came to Rhode Island.
that I did not get definite facts from my father
during his lifetime, but he shared the indifference
certain members of
his family to such a degree that he seldom touched
the question of
ancestry, and considered the clerical (I think) member of the Connecticut branch of the Hayden family- probably your friend Jabez Haskell Hayden of Windsor- who frequently importuned him for aid in instigating family records, an unmitigated nuisance.
I do not even know whether the Rebecca Keeler whom my great grandfather Eliakim married was a Connecticut woman or a Rhode Islander, but I may be able to ascertain this from my mother.
John Keeler Hayden married Catharine Allen of an
old Long Island family and was born, lived and died
Great Neck, L.I.
as did also his son and my father Nehemiah Hayden and
my aunt Nancy
Keeler Hayden, my father's older sister.
This Nancy Hayden born May 9, 1811, was the oldest daughter and second child of my grandfather John K.Hayden and his wife Catharine Allen and was undoubtedly named for your maternal grandmother Nancy Green which would go to prove that my grandfather had known that lady as his aunt.
object to the aspersions cast upon our common
ancestor John- the John who laid bricks and had the
in the marine disaster which ended his useful career.
Even though he did
at one time write a letter which established his temporary residence in his own language as a "Prison" may we not consider, in the light of the "poetry and supposition" to say nothing of the "romance and tradition"
encircling the family records that our ancestor was using that poetic license which would come so naturally from a person of his artistic achievements, and referred to some temporary bondage of his free spirit?
It is delightful to come in closer touch with the earlier members of ones family, but in transcribing the events of their lives let us not forget that it is our duty to
virtues ever kind
And to their faults a little blind."
Some day I hope that you and Mrs. Goodspeed will come to Chestnut Hill and see the very few family pictures (not portraits) which I possess, notably that of your great-grandfather Nehemiah.
With regards to Mrs. Goodspeed, and my very many thanks for the time and care you have given my share of the family genealogy, believe me..
Very sincerely yours,
May 25, 1914
read this letter and criticized the adjective
"frivolous", saying your description was humorous,
frivolous; but I
prefer my "frivolous" as depicting the light and
touch with which
you transformed dry facts into droll recital! J.H.S.
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